“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”
Although I agree with the quote, I don’t necessarily believe all who do this are completely insane, but it does make you ponder. The things you did yesterday have brought you to where you are today. If there is something about your life you want different, you have to do something different today to create that different life tomorrow. The idea of never changing anything and expecting different outcomes is in a broad sense somewhat hard to comprehend. As human beings, we are all somewhat guilty of being creatures of habit. Rarely do any of us like change and even if we do; we are not willing to change our approach to get there. Most tend to like the day to day monotony of life and are unwilling to recognize when change is really needed.
I have heard many times over the years people gripe and complain about their employment. They want higher pay, quicker promotions, or new supervision. They want all these things without truly preparing themselves for what is necessary to facilitate it actually happening. A lot of times they want to continue doing just what they are doing without attempting to learn anything new or focus on self-development that it becomes easier to just complain about everything they don’t have. In order to advance in your current capacity, you will probably need to acquire a skill set you don’t yet have which requires a change. There are a lot of ways to build or refine skills without necessarily going back to school. It will take some of your own time, effort, and energy but at least you can be part of a solution and not the problem. Maybe you could focus on being a better communicator or simply smiling a little bit more. You never know what this does for someone who is having a bad day. Think proactively, figuring out problems before they arise. Consider being a big picture person, looking at things from multiple points of view so you can react accordingly. Surround yourself with smart people because it will make you smarter. Remember, it is always much easier to find fault in others instead of self. No change will happen without a change in behavior.
Maybe you have put yourself in a hole where you feel like there is no returning from. Well, I promise you with some good preparation and planning, you can at least start the process of digging out instead of continuing to cover it up. Sit down and review expenditures line by line. Prioritize your basic needs and separate the wants. Cut out those expenses that are not absolutely necessary and track your progress. Develop a realistic plan to pay off items that are burdening you starting with those high interest credit card payments. If there is clutter around your home, start selling some of the items you no longer need to assist with these payoffs. Just because items are on sale or clearance does not require you to actually buy them. I think there is an electrical imbalance that occurs when those large yellow signs and red dots are seen. You have to figure out what is imperative spending and what is not. Buying generic items in lieu of name brand items may be a great start.
Maybe you have been plagued with some recent illness as a result of poor choices. Only you can change yourself, not anyone else. Remember the first step is recognizing the problem. If you are unhappy with your physical appearance, emotional well-being, or state of mind; you have the power to change this through your own actions. Reaching out for help is acceptable if you don’t feel you can handle the situation alone. Don’t complain about being overweight while eating on your leftover Halloween candy all day. Don’t complain about your fear of the future while still puffing on cigarettes. Don’t complain about one doctors diagnosis without seeking a second opinion. You have the power to change yourself, but this most definitely will require a change in lifestyle.
If relationships are not healthy, you need to reevaluate. Remember that we choose who we let into our life and not everyone is meant to stay. Sometimes the best thing you can do is let someone go. Time after time the same things happen with the same people and we are always hoping for a different outcome. The reality is that some people will never change and if they are not willing to embrace change, then why do we keep holding on? You have to not be afraid of pushing yourself, taking risks, and accepting failure. Some of the most important life lessons are figured out all by ourselves. The problem is when you continue to repeat the same things over and over expecting a different result. It’s okay to fail and often times some of the most successful people failed a few times before reaching their pentacle. Tenacity, patience, persistence, and dedication triumphed and eventually they won.
“If you always do what you did, you will always get what you got”